Wednesday, May 30, 2012

How to Get Your Ex to Return Text, Calls or Emails


When you are wondering how to get your ex to get in touch with you there are very few resources available to lead you in the right direction. After your ex calls it quits it becomes difficult at times to get in touch with them. Talking everyday and then all of the sudden having no communication with your ex at all makes it a challenge to handle this new way of life especially if you want to try and get your ex back. The best place to begin understanding the steps you can take for how to get your ex to start communicating with you again is in what you shouldn’t say.

While considering what you shouldn’t say there are essentially two categories which are the plead and the emergency. The plead is pretty self-explanatory and uses the verbiage of begging such as please and I have to talk to you. Taking into account the emergency it is an attempt to get your ex to reach you by telling them it is an emergency. Using either one of these attempts reduces your chance of getting a reply and may cause them to become more irritated. Now that you are aware of the things not to say we need to move onto implementing a powerful driving force to receive a reply from your ex.

Discovering the elements that affect the human mind to receive a response from your ex moves you into a powerful position to begin discussing the topics weighing on your mind. Executing this technique by writing a letter puts your position of communication in a more confident and expectant approach. Using curiosity and self interest in your letter are the ingredients driving a new line of communication. These ingredients can be put into words with the following suggestions:

  •      You’ve accepted the breakup and are moving on.
  •      Compliment them
  •   Slightly joking criticize them
  •      Let them know you are giving them space
  •      There is interest to catch up in the future
  •     Leave it open for them to call if they want
  •    Be brief


Implementing the preceding method is extremely effective because it allows you to convey the message which is different from the normal approach. In addition it removes the potential of an emotional catastrophe in direct communication. Getting angry, breaking down into tears, or showing desperation all get in the way of expressing yourself in an effective manner. Get through this letter quickly without spending too much time on one particular point. The letter demonstrates that you are fine which will surprise your ex and create curiosity. Now there should be no wonder on how to get your ex to contact you. It is critical that you have a plan in place to communicate effectively with your ex when they contact you. Otherwise, the letter will defeat its primary purpose. 

All the best,

Josh

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Get Your Ex Missing You Like Crazy


So you want to make your ex miss you like crazy? In order to accomplish this you must get yourself in the right frame of mind. Simply repeating some phrases to yourself will put your thoughts on the right track to build confidence within yourself to get your ex missing you. Begin saying these things to yourself:


  •        My ex misses me like crazy
  •          My ex really wants me back
  •          My ex is testing me to see if I really care about them


Put the following four steps to work for success in having your ex wonder how they ever could be without you:

Step #1:
The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is put into practice.
Curiosity will get the best of your ex as you disappear. They will begin to wonder about you as you disappear completely from their life.

Step #2:
Going off the map may be too difficult and out of the question for you right now. In that case you must make yourself scarce instead.
The expectation that your ex has is that you will flounder in depression and self pity so you must become hard to pin down. Accomplishing this becomes easier by going out, becoming more active, and finding fun things to do. Dating someone is not a requirement particularly if it is an attempt to make your ex jealous.

Step #3:
The process you will have engaged in up to this point sends a message to your ex that you are no longer easily reached. Due to the breakup you no longer need to feel obligated nor are they entitled to your energy and attention. It is important that you continue to show your ex that you care about them. Never come across as mean, nasty, or vindictive.

Step #4:
When the opportunity arises to talk to your ex you need to appear positive and happy at the chance to see them. Think about how much you miss them and it should be easy to convey this appearance. They will start looking for you and you’ll know they’ve been thinking of you and still care about them.

Having your ex thinking of you puts you in a great position to get your ex back. Following a strategic plan to capture their heart gets them to do anything to have you back. 

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Get Your Ex Back Checklist



Now you have the green light from your ex to get back together but before you leap with excitement there are a number of things to consider. Provided here is a list of items to be worked through to ensure that a long-term relationship is created with this second chance. Carefully spend the time it takes to progress through this checklist and a new relationship will be born by way of the effort placed on the actions in this list.
ð       Past problems are resolved
Since all relationships deal with different circumstances defining resolved can be an issue. However, if you and your ex are willing to work together to get beyond the past than place a check mark next to this item.

ð       Future appears hopeful and promising
Looking to the future of your relationship does it appear different than the past? Realizing that you and your partner will change and so will the relationship but you can grow together.

ð       A lesson has been learned
Look deep to discover why the relationship ended and what can be learned to prevent this from happening again. Relationships don’t end for any reason at all so there are issues that were not resolved. Write down the lesson(s) that you have learned through this experience.

ð       Life goes on without them
Being apart from your ex should have created the realization that you don’t need your partner in your life. Happiness and enjoyment in life can come about regardless of your ex in your life. Although, that does not mean that you have to live without your ex just so that you know that happiness is not dependent upon anyone but yourself.

ð       Life goals and values are aligned
A successful relationship builds on the strengths of one another and inspires each person to become better. It is not a requirement to have the same goals but the importance of similar values help ensure long-term success.

ð       Prepared to compromise
Prepare yourself to give and take a little because things will not always go the way you plan. Sacrifice is required from time to time for the happiness of your partner.

ð       Confidence in the love your partner has for you
Your ex should have respect for you and have a willingness to put effort into the relationship by placing your needs above their own at times.

ð       Love your ex for who they are
Attempting to change your ex for whom they are causes a great deal of conflict in a relationship. Accept them for who they are and do not try and change those things you are not happy with. Instead focus on the changes you can make which are where your real control is at.

ð       Let go of the past
Keep your focus upon the moment so that you can enjoy now with your partner in love and fun. The only moment you have control in your life is now so begin to direct your attention and energy with what can be done now and release the events of the past.

ð       Attend to yourself with love
The time apart that you have spent developed a love for yourself and this should not be neglected. Continually improve and develop yourself to remain happy. Be attentive to your own needs as well.

Keep the preceding items in mind and if things start moving in a negative direction than you will know the reason why. Remember to have confidence in yourself with the knowledge that your happiness is dependent upon you.


Tuesday, May 8, 2012

How to Win Your Ex Back When They're Seeing Someone Else!


Is your ex seeing someone else?

The heartbreaking and difficulty you are facing after seeing your ex with someone else can be unimaginable. Naturally you feel hopeless and wonder if you will ever have someone to love again.

The video will reveal:


  • Why this is not the end of the world and not nearly as “hopeless” as you may first think.
  • What your ex is actually doing when they get themselves involved so quickly after a break up. (This is not some coincidence).
  • What you must NOT do if you still want a chance to get your ex back. (this is where 99% of people get it wrong!)
  • How to reverse the effect of “being left behind”, so your Ex is the one regretting leaving you!
To Your Happiness,

Josh

Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - Does Your Ex Still Care?


Feel like everything is over and just want to give up because it seems that all the evidence is pointing towards it all being over? In some situations an ex will continue to do things that make you think things are over but you are still unsure. 

Review the signs contained in the video to gain certainty pertaining to the feelings your ex has for you. Eliminate the confusion and understand what the possibility of having your ex back might be. 

To Your Happiness,

Josh

Monday, May 7, 2012

Make Your Ex Want You Back – The Secrets


Everything is different now and all that is on your mind is how to make your ex want you back. The real question is what can you give your ex now that you were unable to give or provide before the breakup? In order to make your ex want you back something or many things must change. Being miserable without them is natural in the beginning but you must not remain in this emotional confusion.

Loving your ex is essential to a thriving relationship but is it enough? In most cases a breakup occurs because of dissatisfaction or feeling unfulfilled. A change in behavior is required to have a change in the results of the relationship. Successful relationships compliment the strengths of both individuals and they each inspire one another to become better. Improving yourself to mesh well with another person particularly one that you love is a worthwhile undertaking toward your happiness.

Insecurity is the beginning and repeatedly the culprit for a breakup. If you want to make your ex want you back it is critical to make necessary adjustments to your confidence and mindset. Reflect upon all the insecure questions that ran through your mind during your time together with your ex. What if they leave me for someone else? How many times did you or do you sit and worry about losing them? Thoughts if this nature manifest in your actions. Can you possibly be the best partner when all that you can consider is not having them?

Now is an excellent time to refocus your attention upon having your ex in your life and to make your ex want you back. Spend time right now working on the insecure feelings that you have so that when you are back in the relationship everything will thrive. Dealing with feelings and thoughts that you are not good enough can be overcome by finding gratitude for the positive aspects about yourself. Take note of the perceived weaknesses that you have of yourself and then begin now to work on building the opposite of those weaknesses in your character of who you are.

Desperation for trying to make your ex want you back defeats any attempt at being successful. Think about if a group of people told you to get lost would you beg them to reconsider your friendship. Acting in such a manner would only push them further away from you and increase the challenge of having any chance at a relationship. The same result would occur in trying to make your ex want you back. Success will come by doing the unnatural thing of not sulking and getting angry over the breakup. Instead gracefully begin moving on and it will cause your ex to reconsider their decision and catch them off-guard. 

All the best,

Josh