Now you have the green light from your ex to get back
together but before you leap with excitement there are a number of things to
consider. Provided here is a list of items to be worked through to ensure that
a long-term relationship is created with this second chance. Carefully spend
the time it takes to progress through this checklist and a new relationship
will be born by way of the effort placed on the actions in this list.
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Past problems
are resolved
Since all relationships deal with different circumstances defining
resolved can be an issue. However, if you and your ex are willing to work
together to get beyond the past than place a check mark next to this item.
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Future appears
hopeful and promising
Looking to the future of your relationship does it appear different than
the past? Realizing that you and your partner will change and so will the
relationship but you can grow together.
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A lesson
has been learned
Look deep to discover why the relationship ended and what can be learned
to prevent this from happening again. Relationships don’t end for any reason at
all so there are issues that were not resolved. Write down the lesson(s) that
you have learned through this experience.
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Life goes
on without them
Being apart from your ex should have created the realization that you don’t
need your partner in your life. Happiness and enjoyment in life can come about
regardless of your ex in your life. Although, that does not mean that you have
to live without your ex just so that you know that happiness is not dependent
upon anyone but yourself.
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Life
goals and values are aligned
A successful relationship builds on the strengths of one another and
inspires each person to become better. It is not a requirement to have the same
goals but the importance of similar values help ensure long-term success.
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Prepared
to compromise
Prepare yourself to give and take a little because things will not always
go the way you plan. Sacrifice is required from time to time for the happiness
of your partner.
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Confidence
in the love your partner has for you
Your ex should have respect for you and have a willingness to put effort
into the relationship by placing your needs above their own at times.
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Love your
ex for who they are
Attempting to change your ex for whom they are causes a great deal of conflict
in a relationship. Accept them for who they are and do not try and change those
things you are not happy with. Instead focus on the changes you can make which
are where your real control is at.
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Let go of
the past
Keep your focus upon the moment so that you can enjoy now with your
partner in love and fun. The only moment you have control in your life is now
so begin to direct your attention and energy with what can be done now and
release the events of the past.
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Attend to
yourself with love
The time apart that you have spent developed a love for yourself and this
should not be neglected. Continually improve and develop yourself to remain
happy. Be attentive to your own needs as well.
Keep
the preceding items in mind and if things start moving in a negative direction
than you will know the reason why. Remember to have confidence in yourself with
the knowledge that your happiness is dependent upon you.
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