Monday, July 30, 2012
Is Your Ex Leading You On?
So you’ve been through the terrible pain of the break up, now you expect everything to be different, but somehow your Ex is STILL acting like you’re in a relationship together.. but the catch is.. you’re NOT!
This is where you’re going to say to yourself.. “What the hell is going on here?!?!”
Amazingly, this is incredibly Familiar, but the bad news is, it can also go on and on for a long time after the break up and NOTHING could happen. It’s you being strung along, as a half friend half love fascination.. sort of thing!
Is your ex just stringing you along?
Is your ex leading you on for their own amusement?
Sure-Fire Signs to Look Out For If You’re Worried Your Ex Might Be Leading You On:
* Your ex continues to make contact with you and wants you to do things for them even though they’re in a new relationship.
This is common especially when they know you have deep feelings for them and you don’t want to let go of the relationship. Your Ex could be taking advantage of the situation and merely enjoy the attention they’re getting.
* Your Ex continues to tell you they love you and even want to be physical with you, but when asked for commitment, they back away cold.
This can be very baffling and hurtful. Your ex is enjoying the fact that they can have you whenever they want without the responsibilities of a full relationship. They are hanging onto you until something better comes along. Don’t allow this to continue.
* When you always go out of your way to help your ex but when tables are turned, they leave you fending for yourself.
If all they do is come up with excuses when you need their help, it’s time to rethink what you’re doing. This is a one-sided relationship, what are YOU getting out of it?
When Your Ex is Genuinely Confused About Their Feelings For You
In some instances your ex might really be baffled about what they want. Sometimes people hate to admit they were wrong in the first place. Your ex might have feelings for you, they might even think they’ve made a faux pas, but they’re uncertain how to tell you. It’s best to get your feelings out in the open and confront your ex. If they’re not just stringing you along, they will honestly not want to hurt you anymore.
Sometimes it’s very common for an Ex to be “on the fence” so to speak and not WANT to make a choice. When this happens, they’ll do what “feels good” in the moment. That might mean, they’ll call you missing you one minute, and then complain about you being coming on strong when they’ve explain how they “just want to be friends”.
It’s NOT a good idea to go around accusing them of the game they’re playing. Sometimes, they’re just not even conscious of it, and it’s only a sign of the confused state THEY are in because of the break up.
Want to know how you can make your ex come back to you?And actually WANT to be with you again?
Having a plan to get your ex back is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing because you could easily be lead off track… or into the dreaded “friendzone” for life.
To Your Happiness,
Josh
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
The Powerful Secrets To Get Back An Ex
Can you possibly get your ex back for good? Typically a
breakup does not occur when the couple is full of smiles and hugs. Ending a
relationship under these circumstances is not very encouraging when you want to
get back an ex. The result of a breakup does not end the feelings that the
couple has for each other on all accounts. Love can still be alive within your
ex and this can certainly impact your success to get them back.
After a breakup out of desperation to get back an ex a
person goes about it completely the wrong way. Calling and begging them back,
sending ordinary gifts such as roses, and stalking your ex through friends and
family are examples that might not be appreciated. A better strategy during the
infant stages of the breakup is to spend time to yourself and with friends. Use
the extra time to contemplate the reasons that the breakup occurred. You had a
part in the ending of the relationship and so uncovering this fault and
correcting it will better prepare you to be in a relationship again.
The difficulty in finding fault in yourself is not an easy
task but will pay dividends in this step. Approach your ex and admit the
mistakes that were made. Be careful with the apology to prevent sounding
desperate and begging forgiveness. Simply acknowledge your fault in the breakup
and avoid becoming angry to get back an ex. It is absolutely critical that in
this step that you are sincere and heartfelt in confessing the mistakes you
made.
Remember that under such sensitive circumstances there are
not many chances to make corrections and win the heart back of your ex.
Following the apology it is a good time to disappear from being in contact with
your ex. In order to get back an ex you must send the message that it is not
affecting you terribly. Begin getting your life back on track and it will shock
your ex into wondering why the sudden lack of interest has come about. A random
run-in or phone call will soon follow to appease the curiosity of your ex.
Create some small talk but do not quickly begin begging or boasting just have
confidence with your new lot in life as you attempt to get back an ex.
All the best,
Josh
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
How Did The Break Up Happen? Can I fix it?
If you have found yourself asking the question "How did
the break up happen?"it may be a clear sign that communication was not effective
in the relationship. Perhaps the communication wasn't honest. Becoming more
involved in a relationship makes it natural to reveal deeper personal aspects
about yourself. Revealing this type of information requires trust and can make
you vulnerable. The vulnerability can have an effect upon the way you handle
conflict in the relationship.
When issues arise do you willingly discuss them with your
partner and are you the one to bring them up? Do you have the tendency to make excuses
to avoid contention by brushing aside an issue by thinking "it's not a big
deal what's the point in fussing about it?" Letting things go that you
should have discussed with your partner in other words. Continually allowing
things to slide and just letting them go builds resentment over time. Realize
that communication issues plays a tremendous role in the cause of a break up.
Within a matter of time it soon becomes difficult to
overlook these issues because they have been allowed to build on one another.
The greatest portion of communication can be pinpointed to listening. Ask
yourself "Am I a good listener?" Maybe your ex made numerous attempts
at resolving conflicts but felt like they were talking to a brick wall so
eventually gave up by ending the relationship.
Fortunately, all hope is not lost under the circumstances.
Begin making changes in your communication skills. When the opportunity arises
to speak with your ex again listen intently to every word they say. Sincerely
listen to what they are telling you and be patient for your turn to speak.
Learning how to listen and communicate effectively will become evident in all
your relationships. People will gravitate toward you because they will feel as
if they have been heard every time they speak with you.
Since you sincerely want to get your ex back after a break
up it is essential that you start sharing your concerns. Make sure that the
time is right when you begin voicing these issues that might be lingering.
Starting a relationship again when conflict has not been resolved is a bad
position to launch off in. Realize that a major part of having a successful
relationship comes down to how you express yourself toward your ex and how you
allow them to express themselves to you.
To Your Happiness,
Josh
To Your Happiness,
Josh
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
5 Powerful Tips for Getting Your Ex Back Right Now
Getting your ex back right now is a high ranking priority when facing a break up. What does it take to really make that happen? Knowing the steps to ensure that mistakes aren't made and that your efforts are successful is key. There is no reason to consider that moving on is the only option following a break up. When all you can think about is your ex and getting them back it is a worthy venture to make that come to pass. Take comfort in realizing the following tips have been applied by many in effectively getting back an ex.
Tip #1
Avoid contacting your ex immediately after the break up. The greatest challenge you will encounter for getting your ex back right now is initiating no contact. There will be times during this phase when contacting your ex to provoke a response for beginning a conversation may be tempting. In order for this tip to be successful it is necessary that you wait for your ex to initiate the conversation and contact you.
Tip #2
Refrain from appearing desperate, jealous, needy or miserable. People want what they can't have and you compound the problem for getting your ex back when constantly chasing after them. More negative associations will be piled upon yourself when your ex has this perception about you.
Tip #3
Reasoning with them by professing your love and other "logical" arguments should not be undertaken. Utilize the natural attraction that all people are triggered by because the previous method never works. Pull your ex towards you and not push them. Wouldn't the process of getting your ex back be much simpler if they became attracted to you again and chased you as an alternative of the other way around?
Tip #4
Focus on spending your time working on yourself becoming better and not trying to change the mind of your ex. Now is an excellent time to get your life in order in all aspects. The new improvements will start to draw people toward you including your ex. Curiosity is ignited in the mind of your ex because of all the changes and the restraint in contact.
Tip #5
Refuse to give in to being friends with your ex when getting your ex back is of extreme importance. There is no sincere desire to be friends in the suggestion and it rarely works out. Moving out of the "friend zone" can be a difficult challenge even if the friendship happens to work out.
To Your Happiness,
Josh
Tip #1
Avoid contacting your ex immediately after the break up. The greatest challenge you will encounter for getting your ex back right now is initiating no contact. There will be times during this phase when contacting your ex to provoke a response for beginning a conversation may be tempting. In order for this tip to be successful it is necessary that you wait for your ex to initiate the conversation and contact you.
Tip #2
Refrain from appearing desperate, jealous, needy or miserable. People want what they can't have and you compound the problem for getting your ex back when constantly chasing after them. More negative associations will be piled upon yourself when your ex has this perception about you.
Tip #3
Reasoning with them by professing your love and other "logical" arguments should not be undertaken. Utilize the natural attraction that all people are triggered by because the previous method never works. Pull your ex towards you and not push them. Wouldn't the process of getting your ex back be much simpler if they became attracted to you again and chased you as an alternative of the other way around?
Tip #4
Focus on spending your time working on yourself becoming better and not trying to change the mind of your ex. Now is an excellent time to get your life in order in all aspects. The new improvements will start to draw people toward you including your ex. Curiosity is ignited in the mind of your ex because of all the changes and the restraint in contact.
Tip #5
Refuse to give in to being friends with your ex when getting your ex back is of extreme importance. There is no sincere desire to be friends in the suggestion and it rarely works out. Moving out of the "friend zone" can be a difficult challenge even if the friendship happens to work out.
To Your Happiness,
Josh
Monday, July 2, 2012
Overcome Lack of Trust And Save Your Relationship
Relationships commonly end because of a lack of trust. The
accumulation of lies throughout a relationship compounds the problems of trust.
Imagined scenarios and jumping to conclusions create a breeding ground for
conflict as a result of each new lie. Everyone makes mistakes which can be
difficult to resolve in a relationship. However, a lack of trust can insult
your partner causing them to want to end the relationship.
Putting an end to trust issues is not always easy and takes
time. Personal insecurities make up a large portion of the lack of trust.
Focusing your attention upon fears begins to create the reality of your life.
The images you hold in the imagination can be very real and vivid. Consider
other alternatives related to your thoughts to hinder personal insecurities
causing contention within the relationship. Dealing with lack of trust when it
has been violated in the past can be a challenge to overcome.
Your partner may have lied to you in the past only so be
careful of falsely accusing them exclusively on that point alone. Sincerely
evaluate the situation by weighing out all the different possibilities.
Accusing and always assuming the worst instead of giving the benefit of the
doubt reinforces the negative behavior. Attempting to overcome the lack of
trust requires that you begin stretching the comfort zone of trust a little at
a time.
Although, if you created the distrust in the relationship it
is critical that 100% honesty is practiced which starts with yourself. If you
are given the opportunity to rebuild trust realize that it is a probationary
period so you must make every attempt to provide answers to questions in
addition to openly supplying information. The reasons for lying are varied with
each situation being different, so gauge the lack of trust that has been
created. Understanding the amount of trust remaining in the relationship sheds
light upon the effort necessary to regain trust.
A good sincere apology works in your favor for creating
miracles with whatever mistake you have made. Wiping the slate clean or
clearing away years of damage begins with an apology delivered correctly. Plan
the apology by focusing on feelings instead of blame or excuses. Be sincere
from a place of honesty and love, knowing why you are apologizing. Apologies
can be applied to everyday relationships as well with the knowledge to overcome
the lack of trust.
All the best,
Josh
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